After the suicide of Leelah Alcorn, a trans. 17-year-old girl from Ohio, I have spent some time thinking about the death that has attracted “international attention”. I have recently clocked onto the fact that in situations like this, a huge clan of anti-homo/trans-phobic teens seem to ambush the ‘net, and be extremely biased against the parents of the victimised child.
Statistics show that children whose parents are more supportive towards their ‘abnormality’ have a much lower chance of suffering from depression etc., and it is imperative for parents to uphold a stable relationship with their child during this –potentially rocky- time in their life. In the Leelah Alcorn example, many people are highlighting the fact that her parents continued to call her “Joshua Ryan” -his/her birth name- after she had explained her sexuality. These objectors seem to forget how disconcerted the parents must have felt, and how important their religious values were.
Being ‘anti-homo/trans-phobic’ seems to be the new trend in modern culture, but perhaps these teens should consider how they would feel if their Father for example, wanted a sex change, or mother turned lesbian. It is very easy to ‘support’ that gay boy at school who wear makeup, but when put into practice, the art of ‘supporting gays/trans.’ often only lies on the surface. It seems that society has turned 180º on the topic of gay/trans., and in less than 50 years, our culture has morphed from a gay/trans.-averting place into a highly encouraging one.
Obviously it is a great thing to support anyone with a differentiation, but there also seems to be great pressure -shown mainly on social media- to be a strong supporter of gays/trans. A right named the ‘Leelah Alcorn law’ has been proposed by readers of her ‘Suicide’ post on Tumblr, and insinuates that all therapists offered to any young person in a distressing situation (such as sexuality confusion), should be given ‘help’ that is in their own interest, rather than trying to ‘revert’ or ‘get them out of their phase’.
Bit of a more ‘deep’ topic this week *cringes at the word ‘deep’*, but just a little reminder to anyone out there in a similar position to Leelah: Things Will Get Better. Don’t let your perception become reality, hold your breath for a little longer, because everything will get better…